The Art Of Sisterly Friendship
My dear friend, Melissa, came into town this past weekend (for a fun visit) and we had the most amazing (hilarious) time..as always! Even with gross weather, we made the most of it and enjoyed each other's company.
Here is the thing..you can't expect to have a dear friend when you make little to no time for them. If you haven't called someone, sent a message, or extended an olive branch ..why on earth would you expect for them to reach out to you.
My mom was so correct in saying "if you can count your true friends with your fingers..you have an incredible life." True friends are far and few ...and yes it is hard to make time in this busy world, but it is very easy to send a text or make a quick call once a week.
Also.. maybe find activities that your friends enjoy too..some of us don't consume 10 beers a night (or 2 bottles of red wine) OR linger around random bars for entertainment..so find events/activities everyone can enjoy. Concerts, festivals, movies, dinner parties, restaurant hopping..etc. (plenty of other options than bar drinking..and what's so crazy is you can socially drink anywhere..doesn't have to be a nasty gross BAR. (I'm done on that topic..for now).
Anyways, these are a few reasons why Melissa and I have stayed incredibly strong. There are no expectations..there is always forgiveness. ..there is always love/encouragement/generosity and the list continues. We may only see each other once a month but time never skips a beat once we are reunited. We make an effort for our friendship. She lives in Raleigh so we call and text weekly and are always staying in tune with each others lives. Praying for one another and rejoicing in one another.
Nasty weather and all...we managed to get a couple goofy (totally us) type of photos..which I love. Enjoy your dearest friends and extend olive branches to those you may not know or haven't seen in awhile. There are no words to describe a sisterly friendship. It is just simple and it is bliss & effortless.
Some favorite quotes that have so much truth to them..
"I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff." -Jon Katz
"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over."-Gloria Naylor
"There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature."-Jane Austen